Who You Must Become: Define What Matters Most

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a big fan of achievement.  But what’s the use of accomplishing goals … even BIG goals … if our heart is not at peace, we live in stress, and we are trading what’s truly most important for things that aren’t.

In Leo Tolstoy’s novel, The Death of Ivan Ilyich, the main character is on his death bed and asks a haunting question:  What if my whole life has been wrong.” Then he dies.  End of story.

It can be very scary to start listening to those whispering voices about being more of who you really are.  But doing so isn’t half as scary as facing our end and wondering if we’d gotten it all wrong.

What to do?  Begin with a fearless assessment of what’s really important to you.  Next, begin aligning your life around these personal goals, including  your relationship to work and achievement.  And while you’re at it, help all those around you to do the same.

A business can indeed have a soul.  In fact, when you and your team align around a vision and values that serve a greater good your business performance will likely be stronger for it!  High morale and high performance go hand-in-hand.

In the end what really matters is not what you’ve accumulated, but who you’ve become as a person in the process … and who you’ve helped do the same.  Let’s get it right, and leave a positive legacy in the process.

 

Curiosity vs. Defensiveness

One of the defining characteristics of a person who can learn, grow and change in life is whether they are generally curious or defensive.

A curious person is open, growth-minded, loves to learn, and is willing to listen and give things a try.  They have a solution orientation.  They understand that getting new and better results requires doing something new, and they are willing to give a new idea their best shot.

A defensive person is rigid, closed-minded, and focuses on why something won’t work.  They have a problem orientation. They talk about wanting change but argue for old habits and ways of doing things that don’t work.  Yes, that’s the definition of insanity …. doing the same thing over and over but hoping for a different result.  Subconscious fear usually plays a role.

Working with a business coach can help you overcome your resistance to new ways of thinking and acting, propelling you down a the path of successful change.  Once you’ve got the right mindset it’s easier than you might have imagined.  Not easy necessarily, but for sure easier.  Please let us know how we can help.

Goals and Change: Perception Matters

Scientists tell us we don’t see with our eyes, we see with our brains.  Our eyes take in visual information, then our brain interprets the information based upon based beliefs, experiences, and perceptions.

When our brain perceives something to be a danger or outside our comfort zone, it subconsciously moves away from taking action.  When our brain perceives something as safe and possible, it subconsciously engages in action.

What does this mean?  Do you want to break free from procrastination?  You will be more likely to succeed when the following attributes are present:

Commit to a manageable goal or change,  that you can reasonably accomplish in the near future, and believe you are capable of achieving.

By committing to manageable goals your brain remains in the safety zone, significantly increasing the likelihood of action.  With a modest success achieved you are ready to accomplish another goal, then another, and another, and so on.  With your growing confidence, each successive goal can be a little bigger than the last.  One year later you just might be astonished by how much you’ve accomplished!

“Inch by inch is a cinch, yard by yard is hard.”  Grandma was right!

This advice may run counter to those who suggest establishing Big Hairy Audacious Goals.   You may have to trust me on this, but our clients have been accomplishing Big Things.  It’s just that they’re doing them one small success at a time, over and over.  Yvonne Chouinard, founder of Patagonia clothing company, calls this “raging incrementalism.”  It has also been called the law of incremental improvement.”

Make sense?  If you or your company seem to be stuck and want to start making progress please get in touch.  We’d love to help you break free!

The Paradox of Our Age

We have bigger houses but smaller families;

more conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees, but less sense;

more knowledge, but less judgment;

more experts, but more problems;

more medicines, but less healthiness.

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor.

We build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication.

We have become long on quantity, but short on quality.

These are times of fast food, but slow digestion;

tall man, but short character;

steep profits, but shallow relationships.

It’s a time when there is much in the window, but nothing in the room.

H.H. The XIVth Dalai Lama