Curiosity vs. Defensiveness

One of the defining characteristics of a person who can learn, grow and change in life is whether they are generally curious or defensive.

A curious person is open, growth-minded, loves to learn, and is willing to listen and give things a try.  They have a solution orientation.  They understand that getting new and better results requires doing something new, and they are willing to give a new idea their best shot.

A defensive person is rigid, closed-minded, and focuses on why something won’t work.  They have a problem orientation. They talk about wanting change but argue for old habits and ways of doing things that don’t work.  Yes, that’s the definition of insanity …. doing the same thing over and over but hoping for a different result.  Subconscious fear usually plays a role.

Working with a business coach can help you overcome your resistance to new ways of thinking and acting, propelling you down a the path of successful change.  Once you’ve got the right mindset it’s easier than you might have imagined.  Not easy necessarily, but for sure easier.  Please let us know how we can help.

Goals and Change: Perception Matters

Scientists tell us we don’t see with our eyes, we see with our brains.  Our eyes take in visual information, then our brain interprets the information based upon based beliefs, experiences, and perceptions.

When our brain perceives something to be a danger or outside our comfort zone, it subconsciously moves away from taking action.  When our brain perceives something as safe and possible, it subconsciously engages in action.

What does this mean?  Do you want to break free from procrastination?  You will be more likely to succeed when the following attributes are present:

Commit to a manageable goal or change,  that you can reasonably accomplish in the near future, and believe you are capable of achieving.

By committing to manageable goals your brain remains in the safety zone, significantly increasing the likelihood of action.  With a modest success achieved you are ready to accomplish another goal, then another, and another, and so on.  With your growing confidence, each successive goal can be a little bigger than the last.  One year later you just might be astonished by how much you’ve accomplished!

“Inch by inch is a cinch, yard by yard is hard.”  Grandma was right!

This advice may run counter to those who suggest establishing Big Hairy Audacious Goals.   You may have to trust me on this, but our clients have been accomplishing Big Things.  It’s just that they’re doing them one small success at a time, over and over.  Yvonne Chouinard, founder of Patagonia clothing company, calls this “raging incrementalism.”  It has also been called the law of incremental improvement.”

Make sense?  If you or your company seem to be stuck and want to start making progress please get in touch.  We’d love to help you break free!